Additional Resources


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Sexual Education & Communication

Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski PhD 

Tongue-Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships by Stella Harris 

Mating In Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel 

The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin 

With Sprinkles On Top: Everything Vanilla People and Their Kinky Partners Need to Know to Communicate, Explore, and Connect by Stefani Goerlich

Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire by Lori A. Brotto

Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power by Carolyn Elliott

Couples Concerns

Couples Therapy Workbook For Healing: Emotionally Focused Therapy Techniques To Restore Your Relationship by Lori Cluff Schade

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity by Tammy Nelson

The Space Between: The Point of Connection by Harville Hendrix PhD & Helen LaKelly Hunt PhD

Monsters In Love: Why Your Partner Sometimes Drives You Crazy- And What You Can Do About It by Resmaa Menakem

LGBTQIA+ Identities

The Queer & Transgender Resilience Workbook: Skills for Navigating Sexual Orientation & Gender Expression by Anneliese Singh

Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angel Chen

Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon & KD Diamond

Tortilleras Negotiating Intimacy: Love, Friendship, and Sex in Queer Mexico City by Anahi Russo Garrido

The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay In a Straight Man’s World by Alan Downs

Later in Life Lesbian: Coming Out Later in Life & Leaving Fear, Overwhelm, & Guilt Behind by Annie M. Henderson

Mouths of Rain: An Anthology of Black Lesbian Thought edited by Briona Simone Jones

Greedy: Notes from a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much by Jen Winston

Bisexual Men Exist: A Handbook for Bisexual, Pansexual and M-spec Men by Vaneet Mehta

Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality by Julia Shaw

Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community by Laura Erickson-Schroth

Letters For My Sisters: Transitional Wisdom In Retrospect edited by Andrea James & Deanne Thornton

Letters for My Brothers: Transitional Wisdom in Retrospect edited by Megan M. Rohrer & Zander Keig

Trans: Gender and Race in an Age of Unsettled Identities by Rogers Brubaker

Polyamory & Non-monogamy

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern

The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships by Jessica Fern

The Hearts of Being Polysecure: Creating Secure Attachments in Multiple Relationships by Jessica Fern

Love In Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

Mono in a Poly World: What to Do When Your Partner Is Polyamorous and You Aren't by Tazmyn Ozga

Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities by Kevin A. Patterson M.ED.

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton


Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life by Holly Richmond

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk M.D.

Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew

The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Wendy Maltz

Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma by Staci Haines

The Courage To Heal: A Guide For Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis

It's My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship by Meg Kennedy Dugan & Roger R. Hock

Weight/Body Image

Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, and Just Plain Fail To Understand About Weight by Linda Bacon & Lucy Aphramor

Perfectly Imperfect: Compassionate Strategies to Cultivate a Positive Body Image by Amy Harman LMFT CEDS

Reclaiming Body Trust: A Path to Healing & Liberation by Hilary Kinavey MS, LPC & Dana Sturtevant MS, RD 

The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor

Fat Girls in Black Bodies: Creating Communities of Our Own by Joy Arlene Renee Cox PhD


Sex Education

amaze - age-appropriate sex education for kids & advice for parents on how to talk to kids about sex

Scarleteen - sex and relationship education centering young people

Sex, etc - sex education for and by teens

O.School - free sex education for adults

Beducated - sex education courses for adults

Afrosexology - sex education centering Black experiences of sexuality 

Planned Parenthood - free sexual health education and medical service (including abortion care, hormone therapy, birth control, and STD/STI testing)

Kinkly - kink and BDSM education

TransIntimate - education about trans and non-binary experiences designed for cisgender people


What to Actually Do About an Unequal Partnership: An interview with Kate Mangino (author of Equal Partners: Improving Gender Equality at Home) by Anne Helen Petersen

Consent Culture: time to get into bed with liberation. by Dylan Wilder Quinn - adding important nuance to consent culture

Move Over, Love Languages: Do You Know Your ‘Route of Safety’? by Gabrielle Smith - trauma informed "love languages"

The Invention of Monogamy by Isabella Rotman and Sarah Mirk - history of monogamy in comic book style

Everything You Know About Obesity Is Wrong by Michael Hobbes - debunking harmful myths about fatness and "obesity" with scientific evidence and calling for a new paradigm for talking about weight and size